【防狼之心不可無】
My mum didn't teach me about the birds and the bees.
I was a voracious reader and figured it out on my own at the age of 8, while reading a Charlie Brown encyclopedia.
But what my mum relentlessly taught me was to be wary of wolves. Stranger or family, they can morph into big bad wolves.
My parents worked 12 hours a day to provide for me.
As they were often not around, my mum commando trained me to be fiercely independent since I was a little girl.
I would be home alone for as long as 8 hours after school.
Mum drilled into me never to answer the door if a stranger knocks.
Once when I was 5, I was crossing the small road, to find my grandpa at the market.
I was on my own.
(Told you I was trained young. I would also like to think we lived in a generally safe neighborhood.)
A stranger man stopped me in my track and asked me if I wanted sweets.
My red alert antenna shot up.
I said no firmly to the man.
(I had never liked candy anyway.)
He persisted and told me he could bring me to his car where there were many sweets and toys.
I glared at him as fiercely as a 5-year-old could and threatened to scream if he didn't leave.
The man hurriedly backed off.
My mum's script for dealing with such strangers worked!
When I was 7, I was taking buses on my own to my mum's office at Keppel, after school.
I worked part-time in my mum's office as a tele-operator, Girl Friday and did all sorts of admin duties. #childabuse
Mum was very strict in my telephone etiquette. Few people could tell that they were speaking to a 7-year-old over the phone.
It was a male-dominated environment, and my dad would insist that I wear more trousers than dresses. I rarely had any dress except for CNY. No mini skirts, no strappy revealing tops, no hot pants, no masquerading as a Disney princess looking for a Prince.
Before I was 12, my mum would often reinforced to me:
No man should be allowed to touch me. That would be molest and is a criminal offense.
Never get into a lift alone with another male stranger. If the man comes in after me, I must quickly exit the lift.
Don't talk to strangers, even if they are females.
Don't accept gifts, drinks or foods from strangers, in case they are drugged.
Learn to run quickly.
Learn to shout loudly and fiercely.
Don't show your fear in front of wolves.
Bite as hard as I can.
Kick right with all the strength I can.
Don't walk in dark streets.
Don't sleep on the bus.
Avoid sharing seats with men on the bus.
Always check to see if anyone is tailing me.
#ninjaintraining
For umpteen times throughout my childhood and teenage years, my mum would say, that I MUST let her know if any man touches me. Even if it's a male relative or my own father.
She said she would definitely pursue legal action if I was molested. Because my safety is of paramount importance to her than anything else.
Mum also went through many times, how I should react/slap/kick if there was an outrage of my modesty.
She told me why it was important to respect my body and not have it manipulated by others.
She emphasized to me about the virtue of celibacy before marriage and why girls should not abuse their bodies.
She also warned me not to trust men when they use love as a bait to get into bed with them or use excessive flowery words. Such men would never make good husbands.
And never never get myself drunk. #thankBuddhaIdontdrink
Mum also said, if she had to bring me up alone, without daddy, she would NEVER have another man live with us, in case anything happened to me. Blood is thicker than water, Mum would reiterate.
A woman never has to build her life and happiness on another man.
Mum led by example and held her word to the very end. #soproudofmymum
You can say I grew up in a very protective environment and had a distinct sense of what is right and wrong because of my mum.
I count myself fortunate that I had never been put in compromising situations.
Or rather, I was quick to jump out when the situation isn't going right.
Like when passengers make funny requests to me on board.
The worst was when a Chief Steward walked behind me, at a narrow aisle and slided his hand against the back of my waist.
I was ready to crack his wrist and then "apologise" profusely if he did it again.
#crackfirstthenreport #大不了丟工作罷了
I also do not like it when taking photos with men, and their hands slide up to my shoulders.
Your hand got no better place to put? Did you ask for permission? #crack
About a year ago, I visited this new cafe for its desserts.
When I stepped into the cafe, this vibe of sadness enveloped me.
I was slightly perturbed. It was a newly renovated cafe, with highly Instagrammable decor.
Why the gloom? Could my Feng Shui antenna have sensed things wrongly?
I had my Luo Pan with me but didn't take the sitting directions of the cafe. It didn't seem appropriate at that time.
A few days ago, I read of its owner having depression since she was a child.
Her parents fought often and after the divorce, she stayed with her mum and her mum's boyfriend's family.
She was only 9 years old when the father of her mum's boyfriend molested her. It was her second time being molested by an adult figure.
The old man orchestrated to first win her trust and reliance, when the old man offered to pick her up from school, as her mum worked long hours. Sometimes she had to wait 5 hours before her mum could picked her up.
Not once did she spoke a word about this to her mum. She didn't wanted to burden her mother who worked 3 jobs and being lonely and bullied in school, she was "wrongly" glad that someone wanted her.
Ever since such a turbulent childhood, she had never felt emotionally secure. When she broke up with her boyfriend of 6 years, she sunk further into clinical depression, feeling that she had lost her safety net in life.
One lady I knew had a father who molested her younger sister. Ever since she knew, she became very wary of him.
Once while she was sleeping, her father came up to her bed, on the pretext of covering her with the blanket.
She woke up in time before anything happened.
I also heard of a real-life story where all the 3 daughters were molested in turn by their father. I knew one of them.
None of them told their mother.
One day, the father died at his work site, due to a crane accident. At his funeral, the eldest daughter said coldly to his dead body that she would now forgive him.
Why do you think he died such a horrible death, my friend?
To all parents out there, as you send your children to one enrichment class after another, please do not neglect to teach your children about wolves.
Your children need to feel safe to confide into you.
You need to educate them what is unacceptable behaviour when it comes to their bodies.
The world is getting more dangerous.
Our children must be skilled in handling unexpected situations where trust is breached.
Don't assume it will never happen to your children.
If it does, I hope for the good of your common sense, that you will do what is necessary to protect your child. Don't sweep things under the blanket and jeopardize your child's emotional sanity for the rest of his/her life.
Bad things don't just happen to little girls. Little boys should be well-informed too.
If you fail in your protective duty as a parent, the first adult that a child trust, you will not be spared from the clutches of Yin punishment.
And if you are a wolf in a sheep's clothing reading this, wake up your idea and repent soon.
Even if the police is unable to arrest you,
no one gets away from Karma.
The consequences of your evil deeds will always haunt you, even in your next life and next next life, till the people you hurt get their revenge and you truly repent, never to repeat your misdeeds again.
.........
天知地知 你知我知 何謂無知,
善報惡報 遲報速報 終須有報。
陽世官刑雖幸免,
陰司法網總難逃。
~ 新加坡韭菜芭城隍廟
how to react when someone died 在 Sayo Momo Cosplayer Facebook 的最讚貼文
CONNECTED COSPLAY: SPOTLIGHTING COSPLAYERS WITH TALENT FROM AROUND THE WORLD! From VIET NAM
Q & A
Name: Sayo Momo
Location: Viet Nam
Occupation: 2nd High school studen
Website: https://www.facebook.com/sayo.momo.cosplay?fref=ts
Credits: (Photographers ect.) Dragon Nobita photography , Iceking Photography , Soup cosplay Studio , Tam Nguyen Photography , Truc Thanh Huynh
When and how did you get started in Cosplay?
I have been copslaying since December of 2013 (when I were 15 years old) . At that time , my Anime Manga club at school knew and joined cosplay . Then we were preparing our first cosplay , Death Note , I just help them for make up but I love cosplay since that
What was your first Cosplay?
My first cosplay was Airi Ban in Devil Survivor2 . It was a girl who can summon gods from her phone
What was the most difficult character?
The hardest character I have ever done was Charles Bonaparte in Freezing because her expression was so hard to react or to be copied . Charles is a girl who has 2 oposite personalities , so is kind of hard to practice action like her it and roleplay her
What characters are you planning for the future?
Hoppo from Kantai Collection , Tina Sprout from Black Bullet will be my next cosplay projects
Are there any helpful hints in sewing, costume design or any other aspects of your cosplay that you discovered in doing your creations?
I often style my wigs for my characters from basic wigs and I know how to make wigs become harder by using eva foam and dye my wigs to be brighter
Do you have a preferred brand of make up in your cosplay? And if so why?
My most favourite make up brand is Costal Scent because the eye color make up board is kind of cheap and when you do the make up , the color will be so beatiful , suitable for cosplay make up and the coverage of concealer or good too
What are you listening to?
I like listening to Sia’s music like Titanium , she wolf because the songs make the listener feel lively
Favorite Movies?
My favorite movies is series of Final destination , SAW , step up , Big hero 6 , Guardians of galaxy , Pacific Rim
Favorite Animes?
My favorite anime is Black Bullet , Toradora , Kill la Kill , No game No life , Kiseiju , Kantai Collection , Akame ga Kill , Danganronpa , Devil Survivor 2
Favorite TV Shows?
American next top model , Master chef , How I met your mother , My cat from hell
Is there a scene from a anime. cartoon, movie or tv show that left a big impression on you and what was it?
A scene from a anime that left a big impression on me was when Charles Bonaparte sacrificed her arm to save the enemy from being eaten by Nova. Before she died, she had remembered when she was an orphan then she had been regretted for not listening to her comrade. Leaving her pride behind, she had called out loud hopelessly though, to find someone that could help her friend
Books?
The Umbrella for the smart choices
Games?
Mad father , Devil survivor , Fatal frame , Leage of legends
Beverage?
Mocha , Hot chocolate , Soda Blue Ocean , Coconuts
Fast Food or Junk Food of choice?
I don’t know why but I think I like eating Junk food
Candy bar?
I don’t eat candy much *teehee tongue emoticon *
Favorite Breakfast cereal?
in Viet Nam we usually eat rice or drink milk for breakfast actually I never eat cereal before pacman emoticon pacman emoticon
Is there something not going on in the cosplay world that you would want to see or is there something you would want to change?
If I could change one thing in cosplay's world , I hope that everyone have more open-minded view about cosplay, especially, the parent and cosplayers understand the true meanning of this passion
What was your favorite toy growing up?
My favorite toy always is water bubble pacman emoticon its help me relax a lot
Who is your biggest character crush and why?
My biggest character crush is Erza in Fairy Tail , because she so beautiful as a Titania , very strong from inside to outside , I wish I will be like her someday
You enter a warehouse. Their is little light, but you are able to find you way around. The sound of music draws you to corner of the warehouse. The are FIVE GHOUL CLOWNS, playing a dancing video game. The have razor sharp teeth and scary weapons. Magic can not affect them, They sense your presence and turn facing you. The run to you to attack. Time to fight! What character would you want to be to defeat them and how would you handle the situation?
8 part of Charles will be destroy them easily with her blade and the moonlight sonata colonthree emoticon
If you had to be chained with a character for one year, what would be the character and what would you do?
that would be Doreamon hehe
You can have dinner with your favorite character. And at this dinner you may ask one question. Who would be the character and what would be your one question?
My favorites character I want to have a dinner with is Kise Ryouta heart emoticon I’ll ask him to marry me
What's number 1 on your bucket list? (Something you want to do before you leave the planet).
Free jump out from top of the world heart emoticon ( highest building) YOLO
What advice would you give to people getting started in Cosplay?
You should know how to make up for yourself first because only you can make you beauty heart emoticon
how to react when someone died 在 看電影學英文 Facebook 的最讚貼文
電影 The Bucket List - 一路玩到掛,10 句精彩對話 Part 10
Edward shared Carter the story of his daughter Emily.
1. He did insist on discharging a few rounds from the big gun.
他還是堅持要拿支大槍射幾發 (discharging a few rounds)
2. Still, this ain't half bad.
現在還沒想像的那麼糟 (not half bad)
(not half bad: It's not as bad as one might have thought.)
3. Carter: When their souls got to the entrance to heaven. The gods asked them two questions. Their answers determined whether they were admitted or not. Edward: Okay, I'll bite.
Carter: 當他們的靈魂來到天堂的入口, 上帝會問他們兩個問題來決定他們是否准許進入 Edward: 好, 讓我來回答 (I'll bite.)
(I'll bite: I'll answer your question.)
4. Let me put it to you this way.
讓我跟你這麼說好了 (put it to you this way)
5. After the breakup, and the ensuing fleecing of the dad. Emily went to live with her mother.
在離異後, 接踵而來一連串 (ensuing) 對父親的詐取 (fleecing), Emily就去和她的媽媽住了
6. Edward: Needless to say, I wasn't invited to the wedding. Carter: That must have hurt.
Edward: 不用說 (needless to say), 我並沒有被邀請參加婚禮 Carter: 你一定很心痛吧 (have hurt)
7. Said she loved him, said it wasn't his fault. He'd had a few drinks. She was the one picked the fight.
她說她愛他, 說不是他的錯, 他只是喝了點酒, 爭吵是她挑起的 (pick the fight)
8. Carter: How did she react? Edward: Called me names you wouldn't believe, and worse. Said I was dead to her.
Carter: 她做何反應? Edward: 把我駡得很難聽 (call me names), 你不會相信的, 更慘的是她當我已經死了
(call someone names: to call someone by an abusive or insulting name.)
9. They were deeply in love and remained inseparable until she died giving birth to their 14th child.
他們彼此深愛著並且未曾分開, 直到她生下 (giving birth) 第14個孩子時因難產而死
10. Do you mind if I call you Ray? Main man Ray.
不介意我叫你 Ray吧? 一生中最重要的好友 (main man) Ray
Carter becomes Edward's best friend in his life.